I haven’t written a blog entry in yeeeeeaaarrrs.
Since Maeve was born I haven’t felt the need to share and connect. Myself and many of the women I blogged with about our respective IFV journeys were successful! We got our babies and rainbow babies. Mission completed. We continued to “blog” some pictures and milestone updates but these got fewer and farther between. Now I myself only post about Maeve’s birthdays and our annual Christmas card.
But being in isolation, and having a very clear mind with lots of uncluttered time, my mind has been RACING with things to write about. This morning the idea of isolation and infertility is at the forefront.
When we were going through our miscarriages and IVF struggles people did their best to “comfort” me. Most people did this with words and the most common things I was told were:
“Everything happens for a reason”
“Just don’t think about it”
“Maybe you’re trying too hard?”
“My friend did x, y, z and got pregnant with TWINS!”
“Some things are just meant to be”
“You’ll be okay”
“It will be okay”
“At least you have a dog. He’s a fur baby to love”
“You have nieces to love, right? If it doesn’t work out you can be “the awesome auntie”!”
I mean the list just goes on and on.
I don’t think people know how much GRACE people going through infertility have to give and live with. We are the ones suffering but we give out all the empathy and understanding to everyone else. It’s because we know that most people just simply can’t understand what it all means. What it truly feels like.
I was thinking today about how we can apply this to social distancing. When you are scared. You have no clue what the future holds. You’re tired. You’re anxious. You’re mental health is weaker. You’re worried. You are possibly in your isolation alone. You miss a hug and human touch.
Read the words above.
Did you find much comfort in it?
And I mean I don’t really have the answers to fixing this for those struggling in isolation right now. We can’t go over for an in home visit, we can’t hug each other. BUT I do know that we can REALLY, REALLY think about our communication right now. REALLY TRULY THINK about our WORDS. How we LISTEN. This can be a time for us to really dig deep about how we talk to each other. How we support each other.
This time is a burden but it’s also a HUGE GIFT!!!!! It’s a time to really do some DEEP work. Really think of our mindset and how we live our day to day life.
I have been doing this deeper work for a few years now. It has been full of light and it has contained the deepest darkness we humans can possibly imagine.
I am planning to return to blogging now. I have a lot to share from my personal journey and I want to share it with you. Because you know “Everything happens for a reason” and I am planning to share how the things that have happened in my life has turned into a reason, or more so a way, to possibly add some insight and enlightenment into the lives of others right now. It can perhaps be a way to help other move forward in all of this.
My series will be called “I Wished For This – A Story In Many, Many Parts”.
Feel free follow along to learn A LOT more about me and maybe learn some more about yourself along the way.
Be well, my friends.