this is my life. sometimes i feel like if it can go wrong it will go wrong. i always thought it was just me but as i have learned by reading other infertiles blogs this year, i am not alone!
i am writing these “complaining” posts because maybe my struggle will help others also realize they aren’t alone in this messed up (well more like seriously fucked up) world of infertility and the process of doctors appointments and procedures.
i sat by the phone staring at it waiting for it to ring at 2:30 p.m. this is the time my over the phone consultation was to take place because my dr. couldn’t get an appointment time with the surgery clinic on the same day as my appointment with her (which was yesterday). the assistant assured me a phone consultation would be fine and my time was all booked and everything was set up and ready to go.
at 2:50 p.m. i was still staring at the phone….
i read the pamphlet that said they are only open from 8 a.m. until 2:30 p.m.
i called the number anyway.
i got a message giving me several different phone numbers depending on the situation i was in. i chose the one that i thought best suited me. i called. wrong place. here’s another number. i call the new number. wrong place. here’s another number. third time’s a charm?! yes. it was.
i was told however that i had been booked for an in person appointment that i was no 30 minutes late for.
HOLD UP! don’t you be givin’ me no sass lady!
“please hold and i’ll see if any is around that can help you”.
oh, thanks so much.
a nurse came on the phone and we started the assessment. yes, no, yes, no. 5’4. weight… do i have actually have to say it out loud?! fine…
everything was going smoothly until she said, “obviously you don’t need blood work or they’d have made you come in”. “um, actually, they did say i needed blood work yesterday but they didn’t give me a requisition”.
then i proceeded to get a mini lecture on how could it be possible for me to do that if i’m not there in person? your doctor should know this, doesn’t she know this? i don’t know why they do this. you need to explain to your doctor….
WHOA! come on lady.
i told her i’d get in touch with my doctor’s assistant and figure it out.
after emailing my doctor’s assistant i get a phone message and an email. “i’m so sorry… they are very unprofessional… they knew it was a phone consult… blah, blah blah.” i don’t really care to play a ‘blame game”. just give me some direction and i’ll scramble to get it done.
so a couple of messages and an email attachment later i am to get blood work done STAT!
(see, i’m not kidding hahaha)
it’s a good thing i’ve been through surgery twice before and am used to shit like this happening to me or i’d really be freaking out right now! (i’m still kind of freaking out a little. not because of the ugent test i need to get done but the idea that something could derail this surgery – again! – is still an anxiety inducing situation).
on that note, it shouldn’t be a patient’s stress or concern to be dealing with things like this 5 days before surgery. i would be in such a horrible state of worry if i hadn’t already been through this kind of thing and that’s just not fair. i am extremely lucky that i am not working at the moment but imagine if i was and imagine if this was my first surgery. what if i was getting scolded by a surgery clinic nurse, then put in the middle of a cat fight with a doctor’s assistant and a surgery clinic nurse, then scrambling to get blood work done while having to get time off from work to have the test done… already stressful situations do not need to be made more stressful like this.
things like this make me sad for others that are going through this same thing and aren’t as experienced as i am.